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Cadbury   in reply to SysBot   on

Aidpage group discussing "needs"...

 in response to mamalee...   

By the way, in WHAT state in America, does a rapist get rights to a child for paying child support!

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Cadbury   in reply to mamalee   on

mamalee's story.

Alright people, this "girl" if it even is one, lies. When I tried to help her with her last posting ID, she supposedly had only an 11 year old sister in need.

Now I come back and she has 2 BROTHERS.....no sister.

She has also ignored my messages offering housing to her so its pretty clear she really just wants some freebies....sad, but always good when I uncovere another fraud.

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Cadbury   in reply to bjcj4ever   on

Family Needs Help With Christmas

 in response to mamalee...   

How comes in your last post with the other ID you had only a SISTER and she was 11 ????? Remeber, the poor girl has no clothes and no food and you can't help your LITTLE sister?

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Cadbury   in reply to Only Want The Best   on

Please Help

Under the law, as was explained to me by court order a long time ago (when we got custody of my husbands daughter who came from an abusive mother) you can dicipline your children physically "as long as NO MARKS of any sort remain on their bodies", hence, slap their behind or smack them in the back of the head or whatever but that about it.

Having raised 4 and still 2 more teenagers living at home, and at least 2 of them having been in trouble repeatedly, I am to this day clueless what a parent has to do to have their kids turn around on them and threaten or commit violence against a parent. I had bad times with my sons, but neither has ever dared to call me names or God forbid, life a hand against me. It was a law in my house since early childhood "You WILL respect me. you don't have to like me or what I am saying, but you WILL respect me"

Of course, I have also spend countless hours over the years communicating with my kids and trying to find solutions for their problems. I have always let them know that I do not love them less due to their behavior either. Times are hard for many of our children as well, not just us and everything can get so overwhelming to them that a few find no other way then even killing themselves.

That being said, I believe if you want respect you have to give it, no matter how dificult that is at times. I believe, once a child is over the age of 9 or 10, respect asks that they are not getting slapped anymore (Unless and I will come down on them like a furie, they DISRESPECT ME first!!!)

Once they are in that age, hitting them will certainly drive them away more and more, but it cannot bring any positive change. It's usually just an act of parental frustration and a loss of anger control a parent needs to learn to deal with.

If you are not acting and reacting like a healthy respectful parent, how can you teach a child to grow into one?

It's a long road to recovery, but you have to start looking at yourself.

 

As for your arrest.

The police at this point did not have to read your rights to you as you were not yet charged. The police works in the exact same ways described above. they expect to be respected. they will treat you with the same curtesy. They will not accept to be yelled at or argued with, period. There life isn't easy on the streets either. Once you start giving them problems, they will no longer treat you with any respect whatsoever and if they had to warn you they will taser you, it means you struggled. That is "resisting arrest" and another charge in itself.

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Cadbury   in reply to SingleMumof5   on

About SingleMumof5

They always threaten your life, it is the final act of bullying you. I was abused my my ex too and left him twice. A week after I returned the 3rd time, he broke my nose and tried to throw my out of a third store window. It is very simple, if he beats you, you need to go to a battered womens shelter. They can also give you help getting back on your own feet and all that. I was there too, not a nice place, but safe....

If you let fear control you, you will become weaker and weaker. This is a time for strengh.

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Cadbury   in reply to Christmas4Kaylee   on

Please help my 11 year old daughter have a good Christmas.....

 in response to W H O ~ K N E W...   

Well, I can certainly say that at least half of what was written in her posts is untrue or at least twisted. They are certainly not on my "I really want to help here" list

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Cadbury   in reply to Christmas4Kaylee   on

Please help my 11 year old daughter have a good Christmas.....

 in response to babyvictory...   

Because you are her parent, her welfare means more then yours and blaming her weight on your husband is sick! You LIVE with her, don't give me that. Someone is providing too much, too unhealthy food and it sure issn't your husband

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Cadbury  

The truth making money in a home based business

PLEASE

Do not pay any of the little money you have, to ANY of those sites wanting a fee for it. If you are not willing to do the research yourself  (and help pages are readily available accross the internet and from your local small business as.)

you will NOT have what it takes to go through with the follow up work.

 

Most people fail at this because they lack DEDICATION, not INFORMATION.

Without dedication you will not succeed, it doesn't matter what those sites promise you. YOU are the one who has to still do it all, so start with research!

 

Understand,....

I watched those informercials year after year, dreaming away, ways I could make money and most of my ideas would have actually MADE money, but i NEVER brought up the drive and dedication to really do anything about it. You have to be into this 100% not any less. It's not for everyone to go to work everyday when NOBODY makes you go. No boss keeps track of your hours, you can "get away" with laziness..and you will fail.

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Cadbury   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

 in response to needhelpnow1...   

That is wonderful that you find a light somewhere. I will keep your family in my prayers and hope things will get better for you soo.

 

Katja

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Cadbury   in reply to SysBot   on

Aidpage group discussing "compassion"...

Problem is...there aren't enough "rich souls" to cover the need of everyone....

Even if someone would give only $100 to families for Christmas, giving it to just 100 families would already be $10.000, but we all know most here need a LOT more then $100 and to be fair, the average person here needs like $1000 or more to make any real difference at all, now it's already $100.000 to help ONLY 100 families in need. Every single day I would estimate 50 families seek help here......our millionaire would have exhausted his million after only 3 weeks.....and neither one family would have gotten much more, but bought a little time before the bills pile back up. Our millionaire could easily exhause around $1.5 million here EVERY month...it better be Bill Gates.....

 

We don't need a 'rich guy" here, we need compassion to keep those in hope that need it until hopefully this government of ours steps up to the plate and puts our taxes to use for other things then 1st class airline tickets and fancy dinners......

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Cadbury   in reply to Amazing Grace   on

Retired Veteran Needs Help

ahh what a waste...he never even checked back in here after March 25th.....

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Cadbury   in reply to Amazing Grace   on

Retired Veteran Needs Help

Hi,

my husband is in Aghanistan, just no longer as underpaid soldier (he did 22 years in the army, now he at least gets paid)

I am not sure as you have so many kids, but have you considered contracting with MPRI or L-3 or something? If you need contact info or other info I can have you talk to my husband. Tours are 12 months though with only a 3 week break.

Also, these pages may help you:

http://spotlight.siu.edu/11142007/InjuredIraqveterans.html

http://www.nowpublic.com/injured_iraq_war_veterans_sue_veterans_admin

http://noanie.com/

 

there are many more....

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Cadbury   in reply to lunker   on

Please help me work from home and get out of debt quickly

I have dedicated 60+ hours a week to my busniess and I am now in my 5th year. I sales/income has doubled yearly, however, my first year I worked for $1.67/hour!!!!!!

The second year I made it to nearly $3/hour, then 6...now I work maybe 40 hours a week, have an employee and make maybe $20-25 an hour.....and this took nearly 5 years. THIS is the reality. NOT that there are no exceptions, but you cannot count on being one!

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Cadbury   in reply to lunker   on

Please help me work from home and get out of debt quickly

And lets be clear here people. For ANY home based business you will need some money to start.

You will need a dependable computer and good speed internet connection. A phone line. You can't ever risk getting your power cut off. If you want to sell things, you will have to BUY them first. You certainly need at the VERY least a bank account and preferrably a credit card to make things smooth. You have to apply for a tax id from your local comptroller of puplic accounts (I think that was free though) because you do it illegally you are setting yourself up.

Most of all, you would need true dedication. EVERY successful business starts up slow and with INCREDIBLE work hours. Anyone promising you thousands a month with 3 hours a day is LYING. While it MAY be that way one day, it is NOT what your first 2 or 3 years will be like. Depending on your home business, be willing to put in at least 50 hours a week.

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Cadbury   in reply to lunker   on

Please help me work from home and get out of debt quickly

 in response to JohnD...   

There are selling information readily available for free on the Internet. PLEASE do not waste money on this. They are making money of the needy. The proram is simply, work from home, do you REALLY need to pay a sign up fee to know that/ And if anyone wants to know how to do that , how to get started and all that, there are many many sites that will help you and give you insight and ideas absolutely FREE

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Cadbury   in reply to Crazyboutcolorado   on

About Crazyboutcolorado

I cannot offer anything to you but my praying and you ARE in my prayers. It is a very bad time to get another job and I sure know what the double mortgage thing can do for your finances....rich issn't remotely as rich as people think it is....

Just be strong until the new year, it is just a few more weeks. Everything will get better.

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Cadbury   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

Lord, so much need, I feel so helpless "choosing" and what little I can do is so little. What is a single tear in an ocean.

I can only pray now Lord and bring these families to you. Especially the Children. Lord you can open doors and show ways that we cannot see. I pray that you will bring a little happiness to these families in any way it can be done. We often don't understand why these things happen to us and how a loving God could let these things happen. Lord, as the greatest gift for all, I ask that you show them the truth. That you show those that are troubled and weakened in their faith that everything you do is to built character and experience that will be of importance to someone else one day, just as you have brought ME through a long dark path into the light and looking back I understand why everything had to be as it had to be.

Thank you Lord for being with me, then and now.

I pray lord, that they can feel your presence too and know you have not forgotten them. That you can remind them deeply and truly that they already received the greatest gift of all. Your love. And while in these times, when we look at our children and that empty tree, it may JUST not seem enough...that may be the very lesson your are trying to teach us. To count the blessings we already have. And to truly teach our children, to feel just the same.

Amen

To those out there they do not receive help anymore this year, please understand those of us who can have exhausted their funds, mail has hardly a chance to make it anymore and even a simple card is running out of time.

We want to help you all. We just can't. Each of us helps as he can when we can. Do not give up.

If you truly have no toys, don't call, WALK from church th church next Sunday and ask the pastors that greed at the door for any toy, and help. Here something  I have made for my daughter when we had no money

I made a scrap book for my daughter. I wrote a story about her live and added photgraphs for everything. I wrote eveything in a funny way and decorated the album. She absolutely loved it and we had so much fun sitting there going through the book and remembering the times when the pictures were taken. If you hit the dollar store or something, you can get what you need for $3 or 4 and it is something meaningful and loving that even a child understands came from your heart and with all your love. I guess this could be made for a son as well.

Good luck to all of you doing last minute toy hunting. BTW as for trees if you don't have one, trees that get "too old" are often thrown away or you can get them dirt cheap. They will not lastmuch l0onger but they are free in the dumpster behind some Walmarts and stuff that sell them.

Merry Christmas

 

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Cadbury   in reply to crazvolocko   on

a little christmas cheer with a card and maybe a dollar dor christmas dinner

I will send out a Walmart gift card tomorrow to cover a nice dinner. Sorry I can't do more..running way low on funds here.....

 

God Bless you and your family.

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Cadbury   in reply to nell23   on

About nell23

I know you are a little over 20, but I want to extend the invitation to you:

http://rooms-for-teen-mothers-or-pregnant-teens-too.cadbury.aidpage.com/

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Cadbury  

With the weekend in between it is nearly impossible to get present to you from anywhere but maybe your own state. So I am calling that ONE soul in and around Madison, WI, to bring or send something to these 2.

Anyone hear God's calling here? I do!

Someone out there is reading this..I know you are. God is calling YOU!

 

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